Wow the more posts I see about Straight Men™ and their buffoonery the happier I am about dating brendan?

Like, all things considered (being 21 and still young and a night owl who lives with his mother) he’s a well adjusted human who takes care of his own basic needs and also contributes to taking care of the house? He does chores around the house and takes care of his living space (he lives up on the 2nd floor of the house so that’s mostly his space), he cooks and cleans for himself and does all steps of his own laundry INCLUDING PUTTING IT AWAY, he interacts with me and other people like a goddamn respectful human and is generous and kind no matter what, and he always steps up and takes care of his responsibilities at the appropriate times regardless of what he’s doing in the meantime.

Granted we flew through a thunderstorm from the get-go and there was thunder while I was there so I had Reasons to be incapacitated but he really spent way more time taking care of me while I was visiting and there were a LOT of moments where if I’d documented them people with romantic partners would be like “when will my partner EVER” like when I hunkered down in his room and he wrapped me up in blankets and got me juice to clear my senses, or when Jessie got all up in my face when I’d gone nonverbal so he got her off me, or when he pulled up a playlist he made of my favorite songs to drown out the storm.

Every time I see a post outlining how awful a straight man is to his girlfriend/wife I have an aneurysm because they literally choose to be horrible when it costs $0.00 to not be like that!! now that I’m dating someone who fits all the physical characteristics of the Straight Male Nerd Who Could Also Be An Axe Murderer Or Shooter and could also be mistaken for an incel (white guy in his 20s, lives with his mother, works at McDonald’s and wishes he could do better but doesn’t know how, obsessed with video games and movies, can easily spend all night every night playing video games with friends, withdrawn and awkward, lacking dating experience despite being interested in sex and romance) but who doesn’t fit any of the shitty behaviors AT ALL it makes me so angry that those men in the posts have that undeserved entitlement complex. They could easily have some basic decency and ability to exist on their own but they choose not to and would rather force their labor on others and I’m not about that life.

Which is why I’m so glad brendan isn’t like that. There’s always a post on my dash about how there’s a difference between a kind man and a man who is kind because he’s attracted to you and I’m so glad I’m dating someone who’s the former and not the latter.

I love him a lot yeah but also he proves over and over again that he deserves my love and is willing to do work in our relationship and also in his own life. So hopefully the few like brendan make the rest of the rabble clean their acts up because goddamn straight women put up with way too much shit.